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Children truly are our hope and our future. They have the potential to shape the direction of our culture and our world. This is the task of the new generation: to help humanity evolve. However, the direction of our evolution depends on how we raise our children.
Dr. Montessori believed that by providing the right supports for child development, we can cultivate a more peaceful world grounded in love, altruism, social cohesion, and collaboration. I share this belief, which forms the foundational principle of my work with children.
Each child has the capacity to develop these values and transmit them to the society around them. Unfortunately, this is challenging to see nowadays, as many children face issues ranging from tantrums and unexplained fears to learning difficulties, ADD/ADHD, depression, anger, aggression, and general defiance.
Our typical response to remedy these issues often stems from a medical model that views the child as 'the problem' and their behaviors as something needing to be 'fixed.' In this process, we risk losing sight of the wonderful, unique person behind the problems, along with the nobility of their soul and dignity.
In our attempts to influence behavior, we often teach rules, implement regulations, and instill consequences, pouring our values onto the child, hoping they will turn out okay. We strive to fill the child with what we believe is best for them.
I understand that this comes from a place of love and a deep need to protect our children. However, this approach has led us further away from truly understanding their needs for emotional healing and development. We have often failed to listen to their cries for:
- Freedom of movement
- Exploration
- Natural curiosity
- A slower pace of life
- 'Let me do it by myself!'
- Respect and dignity in making choices
- Control
- Structure and order
- Expression of their unique talents, interests, and learning styles
I invite all adults and parents to let go of the notion that we know best. LIFE itself knows the way: the caterpillar understands how to become a butterfly, the seed knows how to grow into a magnificent tree, and the baby follows a beautifully designed path of development to become a well-rounded individual.
'When we trust and follow the child, he will, given the right circumstances, develop into a happy, loving, kind, and balanced adult.'
Nature and life have a master plan for development that encompasses specific needs, universal human tendencies, and sensitive periods optimal for learning.
By understanding these special growth times and providing the right nourishment, we help children become who they are meant to be.
As Alison Gopnik states, we need to be gardeners for our children rather than carpenters. Each flower or plant needs the right light, water, and soil to manifest its true beauty, just as our children do. They follow their own paths and timelines.
We must avoid the carpenter's mindset, which imposes rigid plans and measurements onto our children. Such an approach stifles their spirit and contradicts their natural path of development, often leading to the challenges we see in children today.
'I offer a perspective that may differ from the mainstream, but it is one that has proven effective and is supported by current knowledge from developmental neuroscientists regarding the needs of children.'
I strive for a deep understanding of child development, following the laws of nature and respecting each child as a unique individual with a rich emotional, spiritual, cognitive, and social life.
'I invite the parents I work with on this miraculous journey of discovery, so we may all grow and learn through the child.'
In my work, I integrate aspects of the Montessori Philosophy with child-centered play therapy, allowing children to process their issues and restore a more natural state of being. I trust that children will communicate their needs through play.
It is my role to understand and respond appropriately, whether that means simply listening or involving parents to support their child's emotional healing.
I typically meet with parents first to discuss any concerns before working with the child, as parental involvement in therapy is crucial. It is expected that parents attend sessions every 4-6 weeks to discuss relevant issues and support their understanding of their child's behaviors.
'It is not through control and authority that problems change, but through understanding, love, respect, and collaboration.'

Children use toys and play activities as a vital way to explore the world and express their emotions and needs, which is essential for their child development. Play therapy, a form of psychotherapy informed by developmental neurobiology, has shown to promote optimal brain development in children. For children, play is a serious and purposeful activity through which they work to resolve inner conflicts, anxieties, and fears that underlie problem behaviors, contributing significantly to emotional healing. Unlike regular play, play therapy is a structured and strategic method conducted by a trained professional, grounded in solid theoretical principles. In play therapy, Paula strives to create a trusting and safe relationship with the child, providing an accepting, respectful, and free healing space.

Supports healthy brain development in children, enhances social skills, and fosters learning and academic skills. Play therapy also aids in language development, stimulates natural curiosity and exploration, and teaches valuable self-soothing skills. It promotes adaptive behaviors, boosts confidence and self-esteem, and reduces stress. Additionally, it encourages problem solving and life skills, while developing and improving thinking skills. Importantly, play therapy serves as a form of emotional healing and trauma therapy for children.
FIND OUT MORE ABOUT PLAY THERAPY HERE:
Association For Play Therapy
Video: How Play Therapy Works!
This video explains what play is, and why it is important for child development
In this video I talk about the different types of play, and teach you how to play with your child so that you can increase connection and attachment, reduce stress, work through traumas and support your child's overall development.
In this video, I talk about the important of developing a secure attachment with your child and share some fun and interactive attachment game activities.
In this "Let's Play" video, I teach you what mindfulness is and give you mindfulness activities you can do with you child as well as talk abut how to incorporate mindfulness into the daily routine.
In this "Let's Play" video, I share playful parenting techniques which will teach you fun and effective ways to get your child’s cooperation, set boundaries, reinforce rules and decrease anger and aggression.

Engaging in activities that promote child development improves self-awareness and acceptance. As individuals expand their relationship with the outside world, fears and anxieties decrease, allowing for greater emotional healing and freedom. This process enables one to work through trauma, loss, grief, and other personal issues. With incre
Engaging in activities that promote child development improves self-awareness and acceptance. As individuals expand their relationship with the outside world, fears and anxieties decrease, allowing for greater emotional healing and freedom. This process enables one to work through trauma, loss, grief, and other personal issues. With increased awareness of healthy and unhealthy choices, emotions and behaviors are clarified. Inner tensions and conflicts can be expressed and resolved through play therapy, connecting the conscious and unconscious to allow for a deeper understanding of one’s own identity and selfhood. Healing and creative energies are activated, helping individuals find meaning and purpose in life. FIND OUT MORE ABOUT SANDPLAY HERE: Sandplay Therapists of America

In typical psychotherapy, we express ourselves in words and body language, which allows us to communicate thoughts and emotions in a safe environment, facilitating contact with the realities of our psychic life as it exists at that moment. However, the limitation of "talk therapy" is that the inner experience often shrinks as it passes th
In typical psychotherapy, we express ourselves in words and body language, which allows us to communicate thoughts and emotions in a safe environment, facilitating contact with the realities of our psychic life as it exists at that moment. However, the limitation of "talk therapy" is that the inner experience often shrinks as it passes through the analytical left-brain and is formulated into words. While verbal language makes communication easier and enhances our understanding of each other, it also tends to label experiences rather than describe them, leading to only a partial expression of the issue and leaving much in the shadows of the unconscious. Sandplay offers a different and deeper form of communication that aligns with child development principles. This type of play therapy enables a person to connect with the totality of their being, the True Self. It is based on the premise that the body, mind, and soul have a natural capacity and tendency to heal when given the right opportunity and optimal environment. In sandplay, this healing environment is created by the presence of the therapist, the office space, the miniature toys, and the sandtray. In this setting, both children and adults can utilize their innate drive towards wholeness and emotional healing. Sandplay embodies the language of our own inner being, stimulating fantasy, imagination, and growth. It serves as a gentle form of trauma therapy, where the images (miniature toys) in sandplay provide a medium for that which cannot be spoken.

Engaging in sandplay as a form of play therapy requires no prior skill or understanding of symbolism from the client’s part. During a sandplay psychotherapy session, the therapist encourages you to explore miniature toys and select those that you feel connected to, are interested in, or perhaps even have a strong aversion towards. You are
Engaging in sandplay as a form of play therapy requires no prior skill or understanding of symbolism from the client’s part. During a sandplay psychotherapy session, the therapist encourages you to explore miniature toys and select those that you feel connected to, are interested in, or perhaps even have a strong aversion towards. You are then instructed to create a “scene” in the sand using the images you've chosen. In this process, you allow your body and unconscious mind to guide you, following an inner sense of direction on where each image should be placed. You can also shift and mold the sand as you wish, and water can be added if needed. Once you feel that you are done, you will inform the therapist, and together, you will take a moment to observe the scene, noticing how it feels to do so. Engaging in sandplay is akin to embarking on a journey into the depths of your own being—it takes time, commitment, and patience, much like the process of emotional healing. Just like any journey, there will be dangers and challenges, as well as moments to rest and appreciate the beauty of your surroundings, contributing to child development and growth.
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